LOVE...it starts with yourself!

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In the spirit of the season, we have been talking about creating intimacy and boosting libido.  But it's important to remember that there is a key ingredient at the very heart of this - you have to be able to receive love!

While most of us have some area of ourselves we feel we have to work to love, not loving and accepting yourself can really be an obstacle to intimacy with your partner if you cannot receive love.  In order to ignite the flame of intimacy with your partner on a physical level, your heart has to be open and ready to give and receive love on an energetic and emotional level.

Ask yourself:

Do I allow myself to receive love?  Or do I always put others first?  

Do I believe that taking care of myself is selfish? 

Do I get embarrassed by compliments or attention and quickly deflect them?

Am I able to say "no" when I need to?  

 

Never allowing yourself to receive leaves you depleted, tired, and can even make you sick.  Giving from this lack, what are you really bringing to your relationships?  

That said, this doesn’t mean you need a day at the spa or a fancy vacation.  Some of the most loving things you can do for yourself are simple things you can do any day of the week.  

Here are some simple (yet not always easy) ways to show yourself a little LOVE:

  • Say "no" - especially if you usually say "yes"
  • Get more sleep when you feel your body asking for it
  • Shorten your to-do list (at least once in a while.) 
  • Take time for a healthy meal even on a busy day.  That body needs nourishing!
  • Do something that inspires or feeds your soul.  Listen to an inspiring podcast or read an inspiring book rather than mindlessly scrolling through a social media feed.
  • Listen to your body and spirit.  If it says you need a break; take it.  Respect your physical limitations.
  • Love what you see in that mirror.  That body is not you it is the body you are in!  Appreciate and love it for all it does for you.  Start with one thing you can appreciate at a time and find ways to love on even the areas you're tempted to not love.  

 

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Need a few ideas to show yourself some LOVE?  We've got a few!

We all know how roses are beautiful, fragrant and linked to romance.  But did you know they have also historically been used to help heal and open the energy center known as the heart chakra which is related to your emotional heart center?  Roses can bring balance to the emotional heart allowing it to be open and compassionate, yet strong and protected (so important for self-love!).

Here are some of our favorite ways to use roses:

Rose Petal Salt Bath

Draw a hot bath with fresh or dried rose petals (preferably untreated roses - no one wants to soak in pesticides or fertilizers) and quality epsom salt.

  • Gently pluck the petals from a few fresh roses and scatter them into a warm bath or sprinkle dried roses and allow to rehydrate.

  • Add 1 cup of epsom salt to your bath and allow to dissolve. Epsom salt relaxes the body, is anti-inflammatory, relieves pain and muscle cramps, draws out toxins and more.

*you could also do this as a foot soak or a bath with your partner!

 

Rose Tea

The naturally uplifting quality of rose tea makes it a great choice to nourish the heart and calm any frazzled nerves.  Because roses are high in vitamin C, vitamin A, minerals, and antioxidants; they can alleviate inflammation, help regulate sleep, boost the immune system, and more.  

Here's an easy recipe:

  • 1 cup of freshly cut or dried rose petals/blossoms

  • 3 cups of water (hot, but not boiling)

  • Honey, to taste

  • 1/4 cup green tea leaves (optional, if you want rose-flavored green tea)

  • 1/4 cup black tea leaves (optional, if you want rose-flavored black tea)

Step 1 – If using fresh rose petals, thoroughly rinse them with water before use.

Step 2 – Place the petals in a saucepan of hot water, but do not allow it to boil. If you are making an alternate version of black or green tea, mix in the leaves at this step and allow them to steep beside the rose petals)

Step 3 – Cover the saucepan and allow the rose petals to steep for approximately 5 minutes.

Step 4 – Strain the mixture, leaving the rose petals behind.

Step 5 – Add honey to taste, if necessary.

 

A few more ideas...

  • Start the day with two minutes of meditation or prayer
  • End each day with writing down a few things you're grateful for
  • Get dressed up - even on a Monday
  • Do something for yourself without guilt
  • Make it a priority to get eight hours of sleep
  • Smile
  • Plan an adventure
  • Compliment someone today
  • Try something new: dance classes, cooking lessons, etc.
  • Make a list of all the things you like about yourself
  • Allow yourself to have that piece of chocolate and savor every minute
  • Organize your workspace, files, photos, etc.
  • Clean your house or apartment or even just one area like a closet
  • Invite your friends over for a girls’ night
  • Shut off your email and cellphone for an hour
  • When someone offers you a compliment, simply say, “Thank you.”
  • Take time for rest and relaxation and see the value in restoring your energy
  • Call a loved one and tell them you love them
  • Buy yourself fresh flowers
  • Clean your fridge and fill it with fresh foods
  • Diffuse some soothing essential oils
  • Complete that project or goal you started or if it is no longer a goal let it go
  • Write a love letter to yourself
  • Make a list of fun activities or a bucket list and post it somewhere you will see them regularly
  • Repeat the following mantra “I love and accept myself.”
  • Let go of comparison to others
  • Write this affirmation on a card and post it on your bathroom mirror: “I do enough. I have enough. I am enough.”
  • Join a community of like-minded people...
    We're building one at Luminosity - join us!

 

Have you lost that lovin’ feelin’?

It’s that time of year again...that Hallmark holiday that makes some people swoon and romanticize, while others cringe - Valentine’s Day.

No matter where you fall on the spectrum we thought this was a great time to bring some awareness and healing to an area of life where many people suffer.

While you’ll have to come in to see us in person for help with hormones, endocrine issues, emotional balance, or pain; we have a few tips that will help you increase intimacy and libido just in time for Valentine’s Day.

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