While a personalized evaluation is the best way to help you identify if you have a hormone or endocrine imbalance, or help you find support for an emotional stressor; if you simply want to create the right mood with your partner here’s a quick list for increasing intimacy:
1)Intention, Attention and being Present.
In our busy lives much of the problem comes down to not being present with our partner because we are tired, distracted and not making time for each other.
That’s why you need to put some INTENTION into creating intimacy (put some thought into it)
Don't wait for a date night. Even making dinner can be something that increases intimacy with your partner when you set that intention. It doesn't have to be fancy. The whole idea behind intention is that you are making intimacy your objective in any situation. Think about how an everyday task could bring you together. Do you need to turn off the television? Put away your phones? Put the kids to bed early? By making a few simple changes with intention you can find each other even in the daily-ness of life.
Give ATTENTION to things that will help you get there! (take care of yourself and set the environment to be relaxed and enjoyable)
Giving a little attention to your intention will help you follow through. After all, you can have the best intentions but then find yourself too tired or stressed. Maybe this means going to bed early once in a while or saving something on your to-do list for tomorrow. Any detail that helps you and your partner relax and enjoy each other is key.
And then BE PRESENT in the moment (drop all distractions when you’re in the moment).
Yes! Disconnect from all technology! Put your full attention on your spouse and engaging in the present moment. True mindfulness can intensify intimacy and make each of you feel more connected.
2)Essential Oils can be a great way to get you and your spouse in the mood.
You can diffuse them, apply them to each other or use them for a foot massage.
Here are some of our favorite intimacy essential oil blends from Be Young Total Health:
Mars™ blend was expertly formulated to balance the male mind, body, and spirit. The aroma of Mars™ provides an overall calming and grounding feeling while contributing to increased intimacy. (Rosewood, Sandalwood, Cedarwood, Coriander, and Spruce essential oils.)
Venus™ blend was expertly blended to balance mind, body, and spirit of women. The aroma of Venus™ provides an overall calming and grounding feeling while exhibiting increased intimacy. (Bergamot, Clary Sage, Ylang Ylang, Geranium, Fennel, and Coriander essential oils)
Relax™ is created by a particular blend of Spruce, Lavender, Rosewood, Lime, Geranium, Marjoram and Ylang Ylang essential oils combine to encourage your entire body, mind, and spirit to relax.
Romance™ blend has a powerful pheromone aroma specifically formulated to attract and enhance the connection between you and your other half. Romance™ was formulated to have a unisex aroma so both females and males can enjoy the powerful effects this blend offers. (Orange, Grapefruit, Vanilla, Geranium, Fennel and Lavender essential oils)
And a few single oils:
Sandalwood essential oil is great for increasing libido in both men and women because it is a natural aphrodisiac and is helpful in helping the body balance testosterone levels.
Ylang Ylang is great to help balance hormones as well as male and female energies. It is great because it is calming but also enhances attentiveness.
Geranium is great for hormone balance as well as emotional balance. It helps ease nervous tension and stress and even helps lower defenses and open up.
Rose is great for relieving anxiety and is a traditional aphrodisiac
Jasmine can increase feelings of attractiveness and euphoria as well helping with nervous exhaustion. It can help us get in touch with our emotions.
Clary Sage is great for hormone balance as well as creating euphoric feelings.
Neroli is great for bringing your focus into the present moment which is fabulous for intimacy. It also is said to stabilize emotions and encourage confidence, joy, peace and sensuality.
Stay tuned for more ideas for you and your Valentine.
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